Self-harm is when you hurt yourself as a way of dealing with very difficult feelings, painful memories or overwhelming situations and experiences that feel out of control. It can be the thing people turn to when they feel they have no other option.
Some people have described self-harm as a way to:
Self-harm proved to me I was real, I was alive. At times it also silenced the chaos in my head, briefly pausing the repetitive flashbacks and body memories.
Even though there are always reasons underneath someone hurting themselves, it is important to know that self-harm does carry risks. Once you have started to depend on self-harm, it can take a long time to stop.
There are lots of different forms of self-harming. Some people use the same one all the time, other people hurt themselves in different ways at different times.
It can be upsetting and potentially triggering to read information about how to self-harm.
If you are feeling vulnerable at the moment, you might not want to read the following section.
Ways of self-harming can include:
During intense urges to hurt yourself, it can be hard to imagine that it’s possible to do anything else.
But there are steps you can take to help you make other choices over time:
I’ve learnt that you can’t rely on other people or things to save you from self-harm – it has to come from you.
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